Amor Fati or The Art of Accepting Your Broken Pieces — Patrice Graves

Talking Trends
3 min readJul 25, 2023
Photo by Michael Parks, Daystar Photography

The journey of life is filled with numerous twists and turns, and it often takes unexpected detours that might not align with our carefully crafted plans. Who can forget that person in high school whom we adored so deeply, only to be left heartbroken when things didn’t unfold as we had hoped? Or that dream job we pursued with fervor, but fate had different plans, leading us to face disappointment? Maybe it was that dream house we longed for, but fell short in becoming the highest bidder. Yet, amid these shattered dreams and dashed hopes, there lies a lesson to be learned — one that draws inspiration from an ancient Japanese art form.

In the world of ceramics, there exists the practice known as “Kintsugi,” which translates to “golden joinery.” You take broken pieces of pottery and meticulously reassemble them using lacquer mixed with powdered gold, silver, or platinum. The result celebrates the beauty of imperfection. Instead of hiding the cracks and fractures, Kintsugi turns a once ordinary piece into a masterpiece.

Life, like Kintsugi, works in mysterious ways. It often takes what seems to be broken and damaged, and with time, it presents us with an opportunity to heal and transform into something stronger and more resilient than ever before. Each obstacle we encounter along the way is akin to those shattered ceramic pieces, providing us with valuable lessons and wisdom that shape our character and guide us towards new and unexplored paths.

While facing challenges, it is easy to succumb to despair and feel defeated. We may see ourselves as broken fragments of our former selves, and disappointment might weigh heavily upon our hearts. Yet, it is essential to understand that these adversities are not setbacks but stepping stones towards personal growth and accomplishment.

Through life’s trials and tribulations, we acquire the strength to face the unknown and the resilience to bounce back from setbacks. The scars we carry are not signs of weakness; they are reminders of our ability to heal and rebuild, proving our capacity to turn challenges into triumphs.

Moreover, it is essential to recognize that our aspirations and desires are not always aligned with the universe’s grand design. Often, we yearn for things we believe are best for us, but life has a way of redirecting our paths towards opportunities and possibilities that we might not have envisioned initially. Embracing this uncertainty with an open heart allows us to embrace change and adapt to the ebb and flow of life gracefully.

There is a Latin phrase “amor fati” that translates as “love of one’s fate.” It describes an attitude in which one sees everything that happens in one’s life, including suffering and loss, as good or at the least necessary. The next time life throws unexpected curveballs, and your heart feels heavy with disappointment, remember the art of Kintsugi. Embrace your brokenness, for within lies the potential for extraordinary growth. Just as the fractured ceramics are mended with precious gold, your resilience and determination will mend the pieces of your soul. In the end, you will emerge as a masterpiece of strength, beauty, and wisdom, ready to take on whatever life may bring your way.

About Patrice Graves: a visionary business leader and HR strategist with a passion for making a positive impact on society, Patrice has extensive experience in driving innovative solutions that support business success. Her career spans diverse industries such as technology, aerospace and defense, engineering, commerce, manufacturing, and insurance. She is committed to supporting under-represented talent and closing the wealth gap by advocating for organizations that provide opportunities for diverse communities.

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